Darko Durbic

Dear Mrs. Durbic - I just wanted to send you a note of encouragement and to tell you that I have thought of you and your family often since our paths crossed at the Laurier convocation ceremony last June. I did not know beforehand that two students were going to receive posthumous degrees....I too believe that Robin, like Darko is in Heaven with our loving Heavenly Father. I was reading the psalms this morning and it comforted me when I read Psalm 48 v 14. and I wanted to share that with you. Sincerely, Suzy Richardson, mother of Robin Richardson

Message from stephanie smith:

Dear Durbic Family, THere isnt a day that everyone doesnt think about
darko down here in waterloo. Everyday he is thought of and brought up
in conversation. We will never let his memory fade and he will always
be remembered and talked about by all of us. I wish there was
something i could do to help take away the pain your family is going
though. I am praying for darko and your family and your always in my
thoughts. He is missed when we are all together and things arent and
have never been the same here in waterloo since he got sick last year.
I hope to see you all soon. Love steph

Dear Milena

Your family sounds very similar to mine.  My
husband Don and Kayla are still very quiet and I
too want to talk about Robin all the time. 
Robin's boyfriend Blair still keeps in touch but
he has had a very difficult time.  I keep in
touch with a lot of her friends from home but
not the university friends very much.  You must
be extremely busy planning a wedding.  Blair was
going to propose to Robin after they graduated. 
How is Darko's girlfriend doing? 

After the convocation ceremony I thought about
your family and especially Darko and I wondered
if he and Robin knew each other.  I was looking
through the names of her university friends on
her facebook when I came across his website in a
search of his name on the internet.  I remember
looking at those small circles beside their
names in the convocation program and thinking
that of all the hundreds of kids who were
graduating that week, I couldn't believe that
Robin would we one of the names that would have
a circle on it.  If you had told me when I
dropped her off in September of 2005 that she
would not live to cross that stage I would never
have believed it.  What are the odds that she
would be one of only two students out of
hundreds to have something so awful happen.  It
made me wonder if you felt the same way too? 
Most of the time I still do not believe it.

  Kayla will probably go to Ridgetown which is
one hour south of London.  It is through the
University of Guelph and it is a Veterinary
technician program.  She loves animals.  Thank
you for the offer for her to stay with you. 
That was very kind. 

That is truly an amazing accomplishment that
Marko is running the Boston Marathon.  As a
runner I am very impressed.  Blair has also
taken up running and is running his first 1/2
marathon on May 2nd in London.  Running I
believe is good for the soul.  Gardening and
growing flowers from seed is good for the soul
so I have some baby plants started all over my
house.  I haven't gone to any spiritual mediums
but some friends have and they have come back
with messages. They have all been positive
messages and I find it to be a very powerful
experience.

Do you have any friends who have lost children? 
Do you have anyone where you live who can relate
to how you are feeling?  We live in a small town
and my family doctor lost his daughter when she
was 2 1/2.  He and his wife have been helpful. 
Another friend also lost her son who was struck
by lightning just a few weeks before he was
going to start university.  They are lovely
women who have lived with this for a long time. 
I don't know how they do it.  I admire their
strength and their love for all of the family
and friends in their life.  One day I hope to
have the same courage that they do...

When you said that Darko had a good life and
that he accomplished everything that he
planned..that really struck a chord with me
because I would have to say the same about
Robin.  Almost all of her dreams came true.  She
had a lot of love and success in her life.  She
was a bright light that shone on all of us.  I
feel grateful that she was born to us and that
we were the ones who were blessed by her life.

Take care,
Suzy

Letter to Mom

Mom, please don’t feel guilty
It was just my time to go.
I see you are still feeling sad,
And the tears just seem to flow.

We all come to earth for our lifetime,
And for some it’s not many years
I don’t want you to keep crying
You are shedding so many tears.

I haven’t really left you
Even though it may seem so.
I have just gone to my heavenly home,
And I’m closer to you than you know.

Just believe that when you say my name
I’m standing next to you,
I know you long to see me,
But there’s nothing I can do.

But I’ll still send you messages
And hope you understand,
That when your time comes to “cross over,”
I’ll be there to take your hand.

MOMMY & DADDY

Mommy and Daddy look at all who
pass by, hoping it’s you..
and wanting to cry.
Remembering the years of wonderful
times, making farmyards together
and blowing the dandelions.

Mommy and Daddy carry on with their lives,
waiting patiently for you to arrive.
No one is coming to our home
that you left.

Mommy and Daddy wish things could go back
to the time before you were called to rest.
Happy go lucky those were the days,
but changes have come and we must go on.

Mommy and Daddy will never be at peace,
until they know the reason you
were chosen from all the rest,
to go and sit beside God in eternal rest.

Mommy and Daddy
talk to you each day,
Hoping you can hear them
and feeling closer to you then.

Mommy and Daddy miss your
funny little quirks and
all the mischief you used to do.
Talking funny and laughing too.

Mommy and Daddy will always
wait for the day that they
will see you again.

MY CRYING HEART

It seems my heart will never heal,
The tears are different at times.
My body wrenches with hard hot tears.

Slowly softly gentle tears, cold on my cheeks.
Quietly crying so no one hears.

The heart never stops crying, leaving an ache so strong.
I cannot stop the tears from rolling on.

The eyes are sad and distant.
Cheeks are wet and dry.
Breathing deep and shallow,
trying to control the tears.

Deep in despair,
clawing at the darkness
of sorrow and pain.
Crying and crying till the end of the day.

My heart shall always cry,
on and on
for the lost one.

SEARCHING

Looking, looking into others eyes.
Searching, searching everywhere.
Waiting for your return.

Your presence engulfs me,
giving peace and comfort.
Waking knowing dread is upon me,

A gift from my son Darko

Remember me

Remember me when flowers bloom

early in the spring,

Remember me on sunny days

in the fun that summer brings.

Remember me in the fall

as you walk through the leaves of gold,

And in the winter - remember me

In the stories that are told.

But most of all remember

each day - right from the start,

I will be forever near

for I live within your heart.